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It is always wrong to be right at someone else's expense

So often we feel that we have to defend our opinions that we will fight to prove that we are right.

In any relationship there will be differences of opinion. Each person has their own idea of how things should happen or why things have happened. All too often however one person tries to dominate the other by enforcing their opinions upon that person.

Don't be so stupid. How can you possibly believe that? Oh! Just grow up. Get real. You just don't care. You just don't understand. You are just stupid. Are these comments that you use? What reaction do you get? Do they lead to meaningful discussion or to senseless argument? When you are attacked or threatened you tend to fight back so a discussion can quickly turn into an argument.

A far better way to meaningful discussion is to ask "What makes you say that?" Before we can comment on what the other person has said we need to know why they said it. When we know the background to their statements we can then decide how to respond.

If your being "right" is going to have a negative effect on your relationship then always question the importance of being "right". If it is really serious then go ahead and ensure that the right thing gets done. However most things that people argue about are not serious at all and don't really matter one way or the other. Most arguments are ego based rather than importance based.

If the matter is of importance and the other person is acting on incorrect information then you need to show what the correct position is without belittling them or causing them to resent you. But first be certain that you are acting on correct information.

The quality of your life is determined by the quality of your relationships. The quality of your relationships is determined by the quality of your communication. So to improve your relationships, improve your communication, to improve your communication realise that "It is always wrong to be right at someone else's expense"

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